Friday, April 25, 2014
If you let it go, you will be provided for
Are you struggling to hold things together? Are you emotionally, spiritually and financially spent? Instead of worrying over it, just let it go.
I am very spiritual and I still have strong spiritual beliefs, despite not affiliating myself with any particular religion anymore. The past 2 years have been rather trying and much of the time, all I could do was let it go and trust I would be taken care of. That was hard.
I used to fret and worry over things, go over the budget again and again, stress about any unexpected expenses and just seemed to not be in a place of peace, but rather a self created hell. I had many good things in my life, but spent so much time worrying about things, I feel like I attracted more negative things into my life.
I knew about vision boards. I knew that what we focused on is what we attract, but it was so hard to let go of the need to control and to not try and fix every little thing.
"Everything happens for a reason" is something I have heard a lot, but I have really put it into practice. From a religious perspective, it was a matter of stepping back and trusting the Lord to take care of my family and my needs. From a different spiritual perspective, it is trusting the Universe or whoever would take care of your needs.
There are two aspects of this to remember though:
- God helps those who help themselves
- Opportunity is where luck meets preparation.
That is, let go and trust you will be taken care of, but don't just sit there and wait. This sounds like contradicting advice, but hear me out.
You can let go emotionally, trust spiritually that you will be take care of while still being aware and open to opportunities. The solution to your problem often does not lie where you think it should or it isn't solved the way you would have done it. But the longer you hold on to your way of fixing your problem, the longer you will have your problem.
I have a process now which helps me to let go of my problems, which still being open to solutions.
1.) Acknowledge the need for help
Being aware you need help and asking for it is hard. Admitting you cannot do it all is not admitting defeat. Rather, it shows strength of character to realise you need to accept the help that is out there and to let go.
2.) Pray, ask for help, then trust
Get on your knees and pray to God, meditate and ask the Universe or follow whatever method it is for your religion/spirituality. Express gratitude for all you do have, express you problems or desire for help, but don't express how it should be fixed. Just be grateful and honest, then trust it will be taken care of.
3.) Stop thinking about it and go about your business
Get on with things. Do what you need to do, all the things you usually do and don't be looking for signs everywhere. Stop thinking about how to fix your problem and you will often find the answer in the most unusual way.
4.) Express gratitude constantly.
I am always thanking God for the wonderful things in my life as well as the lessons I learn from negative experiences. It is not always immediately clear why things are happening, but trust and know that it will work out.
5.) Family and friends
I have a close support network whom I rely on and often just talking to them about my problems will see one of them come up with a great solution I never would have thought of.
How do you deal with problems too big for you?