Monday, September 1, 2014
9 ways to make yourself feel sexy
To be clear, this is not about feeling sexy for someone else or to the opposite sex (although that can be a side benefit). This is about feeling sexy for yourself, feeling good about yourself. That is the most important thing.
After having kids my body was messed around a little. I got stretch marks, my tummy is not as flat as it once was and I just felt less sexy all over. It doesn't have to be that way though. I have dropped a lot of weight since giving birth and while it shouldn't, my 'feeling sexy' goes hand in hand with my weight. But whatever my size is, that is not really what makes me sexy. Sexy is a state of mind and there is a lot you can do to make yourself feel sexy.
1.) Dress for your body shape
This was a huge learning curve for me. My sister is a personal stylist and once she showed me what suited my body I had a lot more confidence and love my wardrobe now.
2.) Take care of your body - not just the weight
Aside from getting to whatever your ideal weight is (which, by the way, probably isn't what you want, you want to be healthy), take care of it in other ways:
- Dry body brushing helps get rid of dry skin, stimulate circulation and reduce cellulite
- Moisturise your body, but massage it in instead of just rubbing it on. Try a light tanning lotion too.
- Nails: do a manicure and pedicure. Even if it is just using a pumice stone or file on your heels and putting on some polish.
3.) DIY Makeover
Check YouTube, Pinterest and blogs for different make up looks, hair styles and beauty tricks. Try different ones, take photos, compare and have fun.
4.) Tell yourself you're sexy
Look at yourself in the mirror and look at the good points, tell yourself you are sexy over and over with conviction. Do it every day. Don't criticise your body and hate yourself. Love yourself and it will show.
I am obsessed with lingerie. I feel so good in it and honestly spend more on it than anything else in my wardrobe. Good underwear can do wonders for your whole outfit and self confidence. Add in some nice stockings and heels, then BOOM!
6.) Role play or fake it til you make it
By this I mean ACT confident. Project confidence with your body language, walk straight and tall, don't stand with your legs crossed and own the space you are in. You might not feel confident at first, but the more you project confidence, the more you feel it and confidence is sexy.
7.) Work out
Getting fit and healthy does wonders for you self esteem. The better shape your body is in the better you feel about it. You need to love your body so focus on healthy when you work out, not a particular body size.
8.) Compare photos
Take a photo of yourself right now and compare it to a picture when you were bigger. Look how far you've come! For me, how I look in photos is often very different to how I think I look. I view myself much larger than I actually am.
9.) Take time for yourself
You need time just for you. We do so much for everyone else, it can leave you feeling frazzled. Take some time to switch off, take care of yourself, do some things you enjoy and you will definitely feel better about yourself.